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Keeping A Positive Mind When Things Are Turned Upside Down

It’s becoming increasingly hard lately to keep a positive mind due to personal issues that seem to keep showing up one after another. I’ve got to be honest, I’m so fed up of dealing with one problem to then be presented with another. So today I’m going to be talking about how to keep a positive mind even when things are turned upside down because I certainly need it at the moment!

Positive Thoughts

At the moment this seems near on impossible, but the only way to keep yourself upbeat is to take the time to think about the positivity in your life. Even if it’s something as simple as being happy with the way your hair looks that day, making sure that you’re reminding yourself that it’s not all bad will help you from driving yourself insane in your mind.

Get Outside

One of the worst things that you can do when you’re feeling low is to coop yourself up inside the house all day. While it’s totally normal to not want to talk to anyone when you’re feeling down in the dumps, you could take yourself off somewhere quiet for a long walk. If music helps, stick your headphones on and walk your troubles away. I personally find walking to music extremely therapeutic. A song that’s really helping me at the moment is “Live Outside” by Enter Shikari. Definitely worth a listen if you’re stuck for new things on your playlist.

Also, exercise releases endorphins into your brain, which in turn makes you happier. Being fitter within yourself will give you a self-confidence boost, and make you feel healthier which yep, you guessed it – makes you happier. Seriously, get outside whenever you can!

Eat Right

We should all be doing this anyway, but it’s all too easy to slip into a routine of eating junk food and neglecting the nutritious food that our bodies desire. Teach yourself to say no to that packet of crisps, and instead have a glass of water before deciding if you’re actually hungry. The food we put into our bodies affects the way our brains work; therefore eating good food will brighten up the mind.

Take some time to work out a new eating habit that you and your loved ones can take on so that you can all begin to reap the benefits and become healthier.

Take Some Me Time

This is possibly one of the most important things you can do, especially when everything is getting on top of you. As a parent, I know that some days it’s almost impossible to get any time alone, even in the bathroom! However, taking even ten minutes a day to do something that you love will help you touch ground with reality and begin to think clearer.

Remember, if you are feeling particularly hopeless and are struggling to lift your mood to see your GP right away. There are many different options for you to explore, and you should never struggle alone. #MentalHealthAwareness #NeverAlone

Just because depression isn’t visible, doesn’t mean it’s not there.

Depression is something that the majority of us will suffer with at some point in our lives. Whether we realize it or not. It comes in different ways for all of us. Some of us just think we’re feeling a little low. Some of us feel like life isn’t worth living anymore.

My experience.

When I first went in about my mental health, the Doctor wasn’t sure whether I was confusing depression with anxiety. Now I look back on it, maybe at the time I was, but I’ve definitely had an element of depression.

I battled for a very long time with my mental health, and I was stubborn enough to not accept the help and let the Doctor prescribe me medication. I was scared I’d be on it for life and become addicted.

A colleague of mine at the time managed to convince me to try it because I’d got to the point where I was nervous about even answering the phone. I was pushing everyone that cares about me away by not talking about my feelings because I felt like it’d just be a burden on them. They did everything I did, worked hard, looked after the children etc. So why couldn’t I do that?

My plan of action.

I finally took the plunge and went to the Doctor asking for medication. I was already on propranolol for my anxiety but that didn’t touch my mood. When I finally gave in I just sat there and sobbed, rambling onto the Doctor about everything that’s built up for me. I felt stupid. So many people in the world are going through so much worse than I am.

I did, however, feel better for just letting it out. The Doctor prescribed me a low dose of sertraline, as what I was feeling clearly wasn’t just my anxiety.

I went back after 2 weeks for a review of my mood. To be honest, in that short space of time I didn’t really see an improvement, apart from the fact that it had helped my anxiety issues slightly!

Within a month of that, I felt like a totally new person. I was no longer crying every day or breaking down over the smallest of things. My patience had improved when it comes to Dinky and his challenging behaviors. Most importantly, I was actually able to smile again.

How do I get a diagnosis for depression?

It’s not something that the Doctor will just diagnose straight away, especially if you’ve not had any past history of mental health. The Doctor will likely prescribe you some antidepressants and ask you come back after a few weeks to check your mood. The Doctor may even refer you to see a mental health worker if you really don’t want to take medication for your depression.

I’m not saying medication is the way forward to cure depression because it isn’t the case for some people. I’m just saying it helped me and still is. I hope to come off of my medication soon.

If you feel like you may be suffering from depression, please go and see your Doctor. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. In fact, it means the opposite. You’ve got the strength to go and tell someone that actually, you’re really not doing okay and need some help. There is nothing wrong with that. Just because depression isn’t visible, it doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

Useful links

Here are some links to find out more about depression, take a mood test, and how you can get the best help for you.

Moodzone

NHS Choices

How To Cope With Anxiety

Please remember that you’re never alone in this. I believe that you can get through this.

Who Knew Sweating Could Feel So Good

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If you’re ready to take life into your own hands, then the best way to start is by getting active. Now that doesn’t include pigging out on the sofa to your favorite tv show; it means getting up, breaking out of your usual routine, and making a new one that will benefit your life in a positive way.

Here are the top forms of exercise that will work up a sweat, and work out your body.

 

Swimming

Swimming is a great form of exercise, especially if you suffer from any aches and pains, or even if you’re just on the larger side of the scale, because water takes all the pressure off your body and lets you focus on moving around freely. This is why a lot of physiotherapists tell you to swim. Not only that but it also uses every muscle in your body, so you don’t just burn calories, you also tone up too.
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Cycling

Cycling is popular go-to workout because you don’t necessarily have to go outside to do it. As long as you have an exercise bike, you can get fit in front of the tv if you wish to. Riding even as little as 30 minutes a day can make a huge improvement in your physical strength and stamina, and the more you sweat, the more fat you’re essentially melting away.

 

Circuit Training

Circuit Training or High Intensity Interval Training is the best cardio workout if you like to push yourself to limit. With high intensity workouts with very little rest time, make it a very a challenging session, but so rewarding once completed. It’s very fast paced, so you need to make sure you’re hydrated and have eaten something otherwise you just won’t have the energy you need to do this. So you will want to keep a bottle of water within reaching distance for when you have a short rest interval. -You will understand why.
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Boxing

Boxing is amazing is you want to focus on your core muscles while giving your whole body a good workout. It also improves your balance, mobility and even coordination, while engaging your core muscles the whole time, and these are all things that can be used in your day to day life.

If you’ve never boxed before, it’s a good idea to get someone to work with you, like a trainer or a friend that knows that they’re doing. That way you know that you’re doing everything as they should be done, ensuring you don’t cause an injury to yourself.

 

Whatever you decide on doing, give it a fair chance before you make up your mind whether you love it or not. Having said that, not everybody is the same, so just because your peers claim that running is the best thing for them, that doesn’t mean that it’ll be like that for you. So this is where trial and error become relevant. If you don’t enjoy one thing, don’t give up – just keep going until you find something that you really love.

Don’t be afraid to try new things and get nice and sweaty! -That’s the best part!

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Big news in the Miss Pork Pie Household!

I am super excited to be able to share with you all the news that I have taken the leap and decided to become a full-time blogger! It’s been something that I’ve wanted to do for ages, but never thought I’d achieve, at least not for a while anyway.

It all came about because I have been really struggling to find childcare for Dinky over the summer holidays. There are plenty of people that could and would help me but I just couldn’t expect them to have him 5 days a week for the whole 6 week period. I really struggled to pull it together last summer holidays, and even on just the half term holidays I sometimes only just scraped it together.

So I went into work and asked if I could reduce my hours so that I’d be able to work in the afternoons when Dinky could go to my parent’s for a few hours. It seemed like the perfect plan. Unfortunately, my employers couldn’t offer me the hours I was after, so understandably I was told to keep my hours or resign. It really hit me hard, to be honest, I felt stupid because I’d assumed that everything would work out okay. Now though I was faced with a decision to either beg for childcare from my friends and family or to leave my job that I’d worked hard at for two years.

Dinky always comes first, that’s a given but if I can’t provide for him and support and earn money alongside Mr. Pie’s wage then what use is it being at home? So that’s where I decided to jump in feet first and become a full-time blogger. I’ve been blogging as a hobby for three years now and more recently than not my views have started rocketing, and I’ve been offered work from various brands. I’ve had to turn a few away because of working full time but I know that once I’m at it full time I can take on so much more.

I have also recently started taking on some freelance writing jobs for various people/companies, which I plan on continuing once I have finished my current job.

I am really looking forward to beginning this journey into becoming self-employed. I am going to be doing vlogs on mental health, beauty, and parenting. I also have many other ideas in the pipeline, but for now, I’d love to hear any ideas that could help me get going or even share your stories on how you became a full-time blogger.

 

Much love xx

Lost Your Motivation? How To Get Your Exercise Plan Back On Track

After Christmas, it’s all too easy to find the energy and motivation to hit the gym and get in shape. Sadly, for most of us, after a few weeks, the novelty of the cross-trainer wears off, and by the time you reach spring, your motivation levels may have plunged to an all-time low. If you’re at risk of missing out on those targets and you’re finding it increasingly tough to stick to your exercise plan, this guide should prove useful.

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Write a list

If you’re finding it hard to drag yourself to the gym or you’ve lost interest in your weekly spin class, write a list of all the reasons you wanted to start exercising in the first place. Think about why you want to be fitter or stronger or why you want to lose a few pounds. Are you desperate to feel more confident on the beach or are you tired of feeling stressed after a day at work? When you can’t be bothered to put your workout DVD on or you’re thinking of catching the train home instead of cycling as planned, read that list, and hopefully, it’ll give you the push you need.
Sign up for a challenge

Most of us work harder when there’s a goal in sight. If you really want to push yourself and be more disciplined, why not look into doing something that involves raising money for charity or taking part in a competition? You could investigate trek challenges, sign up for a charity bike ride or even set yourself a weight loss goal and ask people to sponsor you. You can go it alone or get friends, family or colleagues involved. If you’ve got other people depending on you, or you have a team around cheering you on and encouraging you, you’re more likely to put in the effort.

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Have fun

It’s no wonder you find it hard to get excited about working out if you do the same thing every time. If you’re bored of the gym, you’ve had your fill of yoga, or you can’t bear the thought of another jog around the park, try and introduce new exercises or activities into your workout plans. You don’t have to use a treadmill or an exercise bike to get fit. There are lots of sports out there you can try. Sign up for dance lessons or go swimming instead of cycling. Join the local rowing club or start playing netball or hockey once a week. Go trampolining or swap a gym session for a trip to the ice rink or the stables. As long as your blood is pumping and you’re working up a sweat, it doesn’t matter that you’re not in a gym lifting weights. If you vary your workouts, you’re less likely to lose interest, and you’ll have more fun.

Have you lost your motivation when it comes to working out? If you’re struggling, don’t worry! Take these tips on board, and hopefully, you’ll be back on track before you know it.

How To Cope With Anxiety

I’m just going to put it bluntly, anxiety is shit. I have dealt with it daily for over 10 years. Most of the time it isn’t bad enough to rule over my day, but those days/nights where my anxiety is so intense that I can barely catch my breath are awful. I had my first one of those creep up on me after months of nothing last night. I got through it in an unusual way, so I’ve decided to compile a list of quick fixes and long term treatments you can do if you’re struggling with your anxiety!
Quick Fixes

  • Distraction

I always find that the first trick I turn to when I feel anxious is to distract myself, whether that be on my phone, a game, putting the TV on or simply going for a walk. Sometimes that is literally all you will need. A distraction long enough to make you forget about what you were anxious about in the first place. Often I’m not even sure why I feel anxious or what thought triggered my feelings, so I find doing something different will change my train of thought.

  • Shout it out

Sometimes I find that I mistake frustration for anxiety, or even that my frustration and stresses create the anxiety. If this is something you feel happens to you then my suggestion is to just let it out.

– Go and find a quiet place and shout out your frustration. 

– Maybe nominate a friend that you can call and just rant to (offer the same back to them for if they ever need it, of course)

– Crying always helps. Don’t be ashamed or too proud to cry. Of course if you feel like crying or you do cry very often, then what you’re feeling may not just be anxiety, so please visit your doctor (see long term treatment for more information)

Basically any way to let out some emotion will help. This is a tip I have picked up very recently and it works very quickly for me. It releases pent up stress that’s boiling inside and you will feel better and fast.

  • Talk it out with someone you trust

I know it may feel hard to talk about how you’re feeling, and it’s difficult to even know where to begin but talking it out with someone I trust helps me feel like I’m not so alone. Even if the person I have told doesn’t have anxiety themself, at least they understand why I’m acting a little strange or why I’m more fidgety than normal. Also, you will be pleasantly surprised how understanding most people are.

So if you feel like you can talk to someone about it then do it, it will help!

  • Deep breathing

This trick is probably the oldest one in the book, but it’s a tried, tested and true way of alleviating anxiety symptoms. Simply sit up straight and breathe 8 seconds in through your nose and 5 seconds out through your mouth. Carry this on until you feel calm again.

  • Keep your feet on the ground.

I often find that when I’m feeling anxious my head spins and I almost feel like I’m not in my own body any more. Putting at least one foot on the ground helps your body regain balance and work out where you are. This technique is called “grounding” and is also used for people who are suffering with symptoms of vertigo.

  • Ride it out.

A few years ago a therapist told me something that I’ve always tried to remember when I’m feeling anxious. What goes up must come down. This means that your anxiety will only get so high and then it will slowly drop and go away. If you’re able to ride it out, then ride it out because I promise you, every time after that it will get easier.
Long term treatments

  • Change what you put in your body

    In every way possible, look after yourself! Eat as healthily as you can. Being overweight and eating the wrong food can often give you symptoms that mimic anxiety, which would in turn make you worse. Cut out alcohol (or cut down at least). Quit smoking, not just for your anxiety but for your general health too.

    • Exercise

    As I mentioned earlier, sometimes a walk can distract you from a panic attack. Not only that, exercise releases endorphins which make you feel happy. Also, of course exercising will keep you fit and healthy.

    • Talk to your GP

    For a very long time I’d avoid speaking to my GP about my anxiety because I was worried that they would just shove me onto medication and I didn’t want to take anything. After now working in a GP surgery and seeing and speaking to my colleagues about anxiety I have learnt that there are so many different ways of treating/dealing with it. You can:

    – Get your Doctor to refer you for CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy)

    – Your GP can also help advise and monitor your lifestyle, ask what help is available.

    – Your GP can also recommend self help websites.

    – Medication. I used to have this massive stigma in my mind about taking medication for my anxiety. I was convinced I didn’t need it and that they just cover up the problem rather than solving it and I didn’t want that. I do now fully support medication for anxiety because once I had heard and seen how it helps people, I knew I needed to try it. 

    It was hand on heart the best decision I have ever made regarding my health. The Doctor explained that it resets the chemical levels in your brain that cause you to feel the way you do. I’ve now been on medication for 6 months and I’m happier than I’ve been in years. My anxiety still creeps up on me, but nothing like it used to.

    There are many different types that the Doctor can prescribe you, so go and speak to your GP.

    Also, don’t forget to…

    I really hope that my tips can help someone. I know only too well how horrible it is crawling through the internet trying to find help. Do you have anything else that you do when you’re anxious? I’d love to know!

    Much love xxx

    #YoudNeverBelieve

    I am so excited and proud to announce that I have taken part in #YoudNeverBelieve.

    What is #YoudNeverBelieve I hear you say?
    Well, I do have some super informative links to share with you but I will tell you a little bit right now.

    #YoudNeverBelieve is a campaign to show teenagers that you are never truly alone. Feeling low and helpless is one of the worst things anyone can experience and I’m super proud to be backing this cause to encourage young girls to speak out if they are feeling anything but happy. In this video, myself and a bunch of awesome bloggers confessed some of the things we felt when we were teenagers, and possibly some of us may still feel this way.

    We want to create a support network for anyone struggling and the amazing Ella Stearn is the brainbox we all need to thank for this! Please please pleeeeease back this cause because #mentalhealth is SO important.
    #YoudNeverBelieve that I used to be scared to go to school.

    Watch the video here:


    Anyone who knows me will know I am really passionate about mental health. Having an autistic son and battling anxiety, depression and panic disorder myself really fuels me to help others. As soon as I read about this campaign I knew I had to get involved.

    Here is where the magic is happening, please donate to this amazing cause – #YoudNeverBelieve

    Oh, and one last thing. Remember, it’s okay to not be okay. There is always someone out there. Don’t suffer alone.

    Much love xxx
    Photo credit to the beautiful Amy Thompson xx