Big news in the Miss Pork Pie Household!

I am super excited to be able to share with you all the news that I have taken the leap and decided to become a full-time blogger! It’s been something that I’ve wanted to do for ages, but never thought I’d achieve, at least not for a while anyway.

It all came about because I have been really struggling to find childcare for Dinky over the summer holidays. There are plenty of people that could and would help me but I just couldn’t expect them to have him 5 days a week for the whole 6 week period. I really struggled to pull it together last summer holidays, and even on just the half term holidays I sometimes only just scraped it together.

So I went into work and asked if I could reduce my hours so that I’d be able to work in the afternoons when Dinky could go to my parent’s for a few hours. It seemed like the perfect plan. Unfortunately, my employers couldn’t offer me the hours I was after, so understandably I was told to keep my hours or resign. It really hit me hard, to be honest, I felt stupid because I’d assumed that everything would work out okay. Now though I was faced with a decision to either beg for childcare from my friends and family or to leave my job that I’d worked hard at for two years.

Dinky always comes first, that’s a given but if I can’t provide for him and support and earn money alongside Mr. Pie’s wage then what use is it being at home? So that’s where I decided to jump in feet first and become a full-time blogger. I’ve been blogging as a hobby for three years now and more recently than not my views have started rocketing, and I’ve been offered work from various brands. I’ve had to turn a few away because of working full time but I know that once I’m at it full time I can take on so much more.

I have also recently started taking on some freelance writing jobs for various people/companies, which I plan on continuing once I have finished my current job.

I am really looking forward to beginning this journey into becoming self-employed. I am going to be doing vlogs on mental health, beauty, and parenting. I also have many other ideas in the pipeline, but for now, I’d love to hear any ideas that could help me get going or even share your stories on how you became a full-time blogger.

 

Much love xx

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The Only Person You Should Try To Be Better Than, Is The Person You Were Yesterday

It’s been quite a few months since I last posted anything on here, and after talking to the lovely Nikki over at keepingstrongandmovingforward.co.uk, I decided to sit and write a post again!

I’m now working full time which is amazing, I only started the hours last week, and I’m absolutely exhausted, but looking forward to almost double my part time pay at the end of the month!

I feel like things are slowly coming together at the moment. Back at the end of last year things were pretty dark for me. I felt really poorly a lot of the time, I drank way too much and I just lived to pay the bills. Since then as you may already know we have moved. Things didn’t change too much after that, I felt a little like things were the same but in a different location.

Then, about a month ago I’d just had enough of feeling sorry for myself. I’ve barely touched a drop of drink (apart from a few Saturday nights when I want to relax) and I decided to set myself something to work towards.

Here are a few things I’ve planned to do/already started:

1. I don’t currently drive so I’m aiming to be driving by the end of the year (I realise how ambitious this is!).

2. We have a cellar, and recently our favourite wine bar (which happened to have an amazing pool table) closed, so we’ve decided to convert our cellar into a home bar. We’ve kind-of started already. We’ve managed to clear out all of the crap that was in there (I will be doing a progress post in the future so I will post photos there) and all that is left in there now is some of Mr Pie’s family’s belongings, which will hopefully be cleared soon.

3. Continue with improving my health. Without even trying I’ve managed to lose 8.5lb since the end of March. Which doesn’t sound like much, but the only thing I have changed it that I’ve been walking Dinky to school and then to work around the corner rather than taking the bus on the school run. I can tell the difference already, and the walking wasn’t with the intention of losing weight, it was due to anxiety preventing me from wanting to travel by bus. So I’d like to continue improving my health.

4. Keep fighting the anxiety. I recently went to the Doctors regarding my anxiety. I was having night terrors, waking up shaking, sweaty, paralysed, the lot. I get anxiety every day but normally battle through it with hyperventilation and lots of chewing gum. After a long chat with the Doctor I decided to give medication a try, a low dose of beta blocker has made me feel 1000000% better. I think just knowing that I’ve got the medication there is making me feel at ease. In 2 weeks I’ve only had to use it 3 times which I don’t think is bad at all!

5. Blog more. Even only halfway down this first post back after months of not writing anything I feel good. Definitely need to blog more.

So five things that I really don’t think is unachieveable, infact I’ve already started 3 of them, and I finally feel like there’s something to work towards or look forward to. I’ve had the above picture saved in my phone for months, and everytime I’ve felt a bit down looking at it has helped, even if I did nothing straight away, I do feel like I am always trying to better myself, which is never a bad thing!

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What did you do to pull yourself out of the dark place?

Much love xx
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Pitter-patter.

I was sat in a dress shop watching my beautiful cousin try on her wedding dress when it first happened. That magical moment when you first feel your baby kick, not just a flutter but a full on boot you in the side. Everyone rushes around to feel your stomach, but the baby doesn’t kick again, that first big one was just for you and you absolutely love it. You smile smugly and feel warm.

You go home and tell the hubby, wait until baby is active again and sit there for hours holding your stomach together, It finally happens, baby lets Daddy feel the magic too. You sit in each other’s arms all night, excited, scared, but most of all, happy. Toddler runs in, you tell them they’re going to have a brother or sister, toddler laughs and carries on playing whilst mumbling something about not sharing his Tigger. You smile, you know he is going to be an amazing big brother.

Today is the day. Halfway point, scan day. Pink or blue? The car was silent on the way, apart from the boy, singing away in the back. He had no idea how big that day was for him, for us. It feels like forever in the waiting room, I’m pacing, partly because I’m nervous and partly because I needed my 4 millionth pee of the day but didn’t want to miss the appointment. We get called in, I lie on the bed, the familiar freezing cold gel is lathered all over my belly and there it is. On screen is our baby, our joy, I’m so overwhelmed I am fighting back tears, my eyes sting and my throat is choked up. But that can’t last long, pink or blue? Pink or blue?! PINK OR BLUE?!

Pink. Pink. Pink!!!!

It’s finally time, it all happens in a rush but I’m in the car, on the way to the hospital. I’m in pain but I don’t really care, the baby is coming, and I’m not even nearly ready for this. We don’t have a name, I had a section last time, the baby is early I’m not ready. I’m not ready! I’m pushing, I see a blur of people around me trying to be encouraging, but I really can’t hear them, I’m scared, and in pain, a lot of pain. I’m pushing again, and again, and again until I’m handed this beautiful angel, She’s crying until I speak and she just stops and opens her beautiful eyes. Her hair is whispy and blonde, she’s got huge eyes, and her Daddy’s lips. But it’s all going blurry.

I hear the sound of a truck. A truck? Why can I hear a truck? I open my eyes and I’m in bed, I look to my left and there is hubby fast asleep. Where is baby? Where is toddler? How did I get here?

It was a fucking dream.

Heartbroken.

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Exciting fun for Father’s Day

Stuck for some idea’s on what to do for your Father, or partner for Father’s day? Look no further, I have selected some of my favourite based on what I think Mr Pie would be thrilled to be given.

For those of you lucky enough to be able to splash out a little, I have picked a few experience days and gifts from 3 websites (links included):

1.) Shepherd Neame Brewery Tour – Don’t pretty much all men love a good beer? Wouldn’t they love to tour and taste? I know Mr Pie would be thrilled to see this as a gift. Only problem is, I don’t think it’s really suitable to go with the kids. Still a perfect excuse for Dad to get away for a while! This package is available from into the blue experience days from £14.99.

2.) Father and Child Photoshoot – What a lovely gift! Especially for the new fathers out there, I can’t think of a more lovely way to capture Father’s Day! This is also available over at into the blue experience days from a low price of £20!

3.) Beard Grooming Kit – A gift I know all men with even the tiniest beard will love. This lovely gift is available from not on the highstreet at the price of £25. This charming kit comes with a moustache shaped comb (of course), moustache wax, beard oil and scissors, all of it is packed into a lovely tin for your Dad!

4.) Man Mug – I’ve seen this one in action, and it really is “man size”. Brilliant for those days when you need that extra large cup of coffee (why don’t they have a Mum version?!). Grab this over at Prezzybox for £9.95!

5.) Supercar experience – With prices starting from £20, and all men wanting to drive like their heroes in the films, this is a perfect gift idea for Father’s Day. Grab this one over at into the blue experience days.

For those of you that can’t splash out, I have come up with a few ideas that will cost the minimum, and you can guarantee Dad will still love it!

1.) Breakfast in bed – Everybody loves breakfast in bed, and we don’t often get the chance to treat eachother to it. So grab the kids, make sure hubby stays in bed and cook him a slap up breakfast with them. Get them to take it into him with a card and he will be happy as hell!

2.) Go for a walk as a family – providing the weather is kind, a walk is an amazing way for family to spend time together! Walk to the park, or the local pond and feed the ducks. Relaxing together as a family is an amazing way to treat Dad this Father’s Day!

3.) Watch a film together – If the weather isn’t nice enough to be out in, you could abandon getting dressed, all stay in your jammies, snuggle up in the lounge with your duvets and have a film day. Just make sure Dad is relaxing! Perfect!

4.) Give him “I will” cards – this one is perfect for the kids to do. Get them to create a couple of cards each saying something that they will do for him when he “cashes” them in. They can be fun and simple things like “I will clean my room” etc. Could be good for adults to join in too?!

5.) Cook him his favourite meal – Get the kids involved too (as long as it’s not too complex or dangerous, haha). Make him put his feet up whilst you pamper him with his favourite food and drinks. A treat for being an amazing Father, and for everything else he does!

What do you have planned for this Father’s day? I hope that if you’re stuck, I have given you a few ideas!

Much love xx
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