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Parenting Through the Pain

Parenting Through the Pain

Many of us have periods in our life when we have to live with pain. When part or all of our bodies is causing us discomfort. When things don’t feel right. When our typical day to day tasks become awkward or uncomfortable, and we no longer take enjoyment from the things that we love. Sometimes, we can’t even do the things that we love. Living with pain is always tough. But, it can be much harder to cope with if you have young children to care for. 

If you are lucky, your pain isn’t long-term. You might have a broken bone or short-term condition that will be better in no time. You’ll have to struggle through, but you know that it won’t last for long. But, for some people, the problem is more long-term. You might be seeking help from a serious injury claim solicitor as a result of an accident or injury, or you might have a condition that means that chronic pain is part of your life, and always will be. Either way, however, if you are a parent, you will want to be the best that you can be. So, let’s take a look at some things that you can do to parent through the pain, no matter how long it is going to last. 

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Understand Your Pain

Knowing why you are in pain, understanding your symptoms, knowing what to expect from the future, and what your treatment options are can be powerful. When it comes to health, knowledge is always essential. So, learn as much as you can, and try to gain a greater understanding of both your pain and your condition. 

Listen to Your Body

Many of us are terrible at listening to our bodies. We push them too hard. We don’t stop when we should, and we don’t rest when that is what our bodies need more than anything. You can’t afford to do this when you are parenting through the pain. You need to learn to listen for the signs that you have done too much and to give your body the rest that it needs when that is what it is asking for. 

Be Honest with Your Children

Very young children don’t understand pain. But, when they get older, you should try to be honest with them. Explain the situation, invite their questions and answer them, and don’t feel like you aren’t allowed to show weakness in front of them. It’s ok for them to support you from time to time. 

Keep a Well-Stocked Craft Box

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There might be days when you can’t get out of the house. You might not even be able to get up off the sofa. On your own, you might enjoy a day in bed watching TV. With kids, this isn’t always possible. They might watch a film for a while, but they won’t spend hours and hours sat still. A well-stocked craft box, dressing up materials and indoor games can be helpful. 

Get Plenty of Me Time

We all need me time some times. Even more so when we are struggling, it’s ok to ask for help. It’s ok to spend all day in bed or take a long hot bath when you do get that help. Give your body what it needs, and enjoy any me time that you do get. 

Keep up with Checkups

Pain management isn’t easy. Things change. Your condition will change, and your treatment options might develop. Keep up with regular checkups and see your doctor as often as you need to. 

Have a Plan

On those days when you can barely move, or your pain is making you feel sick, what are you going to do? Who can you call for help? What medication can you take? What can you do to tire the kids out? Always plan for the worst days, and you’ll be ready for them when they come. 

Never Run Out of Medication

The worst thing that you can do when you are parenting with pain is run out of medication. Sort of a repeat prescription well before you run out of anything that you need.

Join a Support Group

Support groups are beneficial. You could make great friends and gain support. You’ll have someone to talk to when you need to vent and help if you need it. 

Make Lots of Local Friends

Making friends with your neighbours and mums at your kid’s school can also be useful. The more people in your support network, the easier it will be. 

Don’t Think You’re a Bad Parent

Parenting isn’t one size fits all. There are no rules. Nor are there right and wrong ways to do it. You might not be able to parent like some of your friends do. You’ll do it your way, and that is fine.