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How You Can Find Time For Yourself: Guilt Free Introverting

How You Can Find Time For Yourself: Guilt Free Introverting

How often do you get some time alone to do whatever you want? There is a difference between loneliness, where you don’t have anyone to talk to or visit, and taking time out of your life to spend on your own doing things that make you happy. And while loneliness is a massive problem in the UK right now, especially for the older generations, the same can be said for people who don’t get that time alone to focus on themselves and take care of their needs.

Spending time alone or guilt-free introverting if you wish is something everyone should aim to do at some point on a regular or semi-regular basis. These tips can help you carve out that time and fit it into your schedule.

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Express Your Needs

Everyone has needs, which will differ depending on who you are and what you want. Being able to express said needs. No one else is or should be expected to be a mind reader, so discover what you want for yourself and express those needs to you and others so that they know, too.

Identify Your Sanctuaries

Next, you need to identify what your alone time sanctuaries are so you can find time to fit them in. It could be that the gym is your sanctuary, the place you go to be alone and switch off for a few hours. It might be a park bench where you watch the world go by, the bathroom when taking a long bath, or your bedroom. Identify the spaces that can help you get what you need from your alone time and what can help you achieve this.

Find Time

Easier said than done, right? However, finding time is vital to dedicate to your alone time. Put every single aspect of your life into a calendar, hour by hour and assess where you can find the time. It might be that you can arrive to pick the kids up from school 20 minutes early some days, meaning you can relax by car to read a book or amuse yourself by playing games on www.fruityking.co.nz or even have a nap. It might be that you can identify that you can go to bed an hour earlier to relax or practise meditation a few times per week. Being able to see your schedule written down in front of you will make it easier to find the time to take away for yourself.

Remove Guilt

If the reason you don’t commit to spending time alone or taking time away from your life is because you feel guilty, then you need to identify why this makes you feel guilty and remove the guilt from your life. Why do you feel guilty for taking time to yourself? What is the worst that can happen if you do or don’t do it? Look at it objectively and write down your thoughts. If it helps, then you can move forward with creating this for yourself without any negativity impacting the time you take.

Taking time for yourself away from others and your life isn’t selfish, nor should it be viewed as such. It is a vital part of promoting good health and wellbeing in your life and being able to do this can boost your mental health and allow you the time to put yourself and your needs first.

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